Of Love and Marriage...
Love and Marriage is more than four bare legs in a bed...
And now after more than five years into it, I realized it was wrong to think then that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love -- whatever that is -- appears to me as an offspring of both spiritual and physical affinity. An affinity that is genuinely created in a moment, otherwise it will never be created for years.
But some of my views about love have remained unchanged. I still think that love is more than sending flowers and greetings, holding hands, kissing, and all of those "sweet" things that look to mean love. And you wouldn't believe that I never sent flowers to the woman I married... not once. I thought of love as the unending commitment -- putting up with one another and always looking for the best in them even when they are annoying you. It’s realizing that no one is ever going to be perfect, but not letting that bother you. It’s about loving a person for their imperfections as much as their good qualities. To see reality--not as you both expect it to be but as it is. The bottom line is that people are never perfect, but love can be, and doing that makes it that. A lot of people waste time looking for the perfect partner, instead of creating the perfect love.
I don’t want to get all poetic but I remember six years ago, I met this woman, whom I gotten to know intimately, and after some time of enjoying together -- those moments of life that are utterly very very simple -- have realized then that I feel a very peculiar way when I am around her, or talking to her, or otherwise thinking about her. I had no clear explanation for what constitutes that feeling, I only knew that it seems to be as unique and indescribable. We were literally sharing a life. That simple. However, along with sharing a life comes this amazing realization – I am sharing a life, I am one person yet only together am I whole, and though I may not have been aware of it before, I am only a half – and like a puzzle, she perfectly fits... that when together, the other parts bring twice as much depth and meaning to both of us.
Of love and marriage, I think it’s all about the thoughts and the choices that we make. I never ascribed that someone is ever going to fit that perfect ideal picture of what we desire in a future partner. You can go on spending everything searching for that person forever... and you are right, there will never be a way to deny the possibility of finding someone better than the person you have now. But being honest with yourself... letting the natural order of things flow and take its heavenly mapped waves, getting out of your fictional beings -- you will surely find yourself in a place where giving up a good thing just on the chance something better comes along in the future is never worth it.
Up to this time, it still blows my mind to think that I have found the love that I have. I grew up thinking that I may not be capable of commitment, that even love can never be permanent, and that happiness and contentment goes with balancing as many partners as you can handle... I'm through with it. I was wrong, and so much proud that I was.
And now after more than five years into it, I realized it was wrong to think then that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love -- whatever that is -- appears to me as an offspring of both spiritual and physical affinity. An affinity that is genuinely created in a moment, otherwise it will never be created for years.
But some of my views about love have remained unchanged. I still think that love is more than sending flowers and greetings, holding hands, kissing, and all of those "sweet" things that look to mean love. And you wouldn't believe that I never sent flowers to the woman I married... not once. I thought of love as the unending commitment -- putting up with one another and always looking for the best in them even when they are annoying you. It’s realizing that no one is ever going to be perfect, but not letting that bother you. It’s about loving a person for their imperfections as much as their good qualities. To see reality--not as you both expect it to be but as it is. The bottom line is that people are never perfect, but love can be, and doing that makes it that. A lot of people waste time looking for the perfect partner, instead of creating the perfect love.
I don’t want to get all poetic but I remember six years ago, I met this woman, whom I gotten to know intimately, and after some time of enjoying together -- those moments of life that are utterly very very simple -- have realized then that I feel a very peculiar way when I am around her, or talking to her, or otherwise thinking about her. I had no clear explanation for what constitutes that feeling, I only knew that it seems to be as unique and indescribable. We were literally sharing a life. That simple. However, along with sharing a life comes this amazing realization – I am sharing a life, I am one person yet only together am I whole, and though I may not have been aware of it before, I am only a half – and like a puzzle, she perfectly fits... that when together, the other parts bring twice as much depth and meaning to both of us.
Of love and marriage, I think it’s all about the thoughts and the choices that we make. I never ascribed that someone is ever going to fit that perfect ideal picture of what we desire in a future partner. You can go on spending everything searching for that person forever... and you are right, there will never be a way to deny the possibility of finding someone better than the person you have now. But being honest with yourself... letting the natural order of things flow and take its heavenly mapped waves, getting out of your fictional beings -- you will surely find yourself in a place where giving up a good thing just on the chance something better comes along in the future is never worth it.
Up to this time, it still blows my mind to think that I have found the love that I have. I grew up thinking that I may not be capable of commitment, that even love can never be permanent, and that happiness and contentment goes with balancing as many partners as you can handle... I'm through with it. I was wrong, and so much proud that I was.
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